This is an extremely difficult time for each and every one of us, as the number of those infected with COVID is rising at a terrifying rate. It’s a challenge to maintain a sense of calm and well-being when anxiety-provoking news and outright hostility swirl all around us. So I thought I would share a few resources that I’ve found particularly helpful.

Working with the Body

A 30 minute Grounding Hatha Yoga session to Connect with Your Center

A Quick Two Minute Yoga Flow

Twelve Minute Bedtime Yoga

A 10 Minute Qi Gong Morning Exercise

Five Minute Body Scan

4 7 8 Breathing by Andrew Weil 

Journaling Through COVID

Journaling as a Tool for Coping with Anxiety

Journaling: A Wellness Tool During COVID 

How Journaling Can Help You in Hard Times

Journaling Prompts for COVID 

Tara Brach, COVID, and RAIN

Tara Brach on Facing Fear [Part 1] – Awakening Your Fearless Heart

Tara Brach on Facing Fear (Part 2) – Awakening Your Fearless Heart

Tara Brach on the RAIN of Self-Compassion

Facing Pandemic Fears with an Awake Heart, with Tara Brach

A Ten Minute Guided Meditation: Light RAIN in Difficult Times, with Tara Brach

Tara Brach’s Page of RAIN Resources (a powerful exercise)

I hope you check a few of them out and if you do, I’d love to hear how they work for you.

“It could happen any time, tornado,
earthquake, Armageddon. It could happen
Or sunshine, love, salvation.
It could, you know. That’s why we wake
and look out—no guarantees in this life.
But some bonuses, like morning,
like right now,
like noon,
like evening.”

William Stafford

Many Blessings,

Tammie Byram Fowles

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Holding My Breath

“Breathe in deeply to bring your mind home to your body.”

Thich Nhat Hanh

During this particularly stressful time of COVID, I’m holding my breath more closely, aware of the power it contains to ground, relax, open, and center me. For so much of my life, I took this amazing resource for granted, and now that I have learned to work with my breath, I completely relate to the assertion that “deep breaths are like little love notes to your body.” Besides making my life possible, my breath has become a teacher, friend, and ally.

Following is a list of videos that can provide you with the information you need to make your breath an even greater gift and resource.

Introduction to Breathing https://youtu.be/j0I1hWgH_WM

The Science of Breathing https://youtu.be/8XQLpyo96_w

Breath: Five Minutes can Change your Life | https://youtu.be/hFcQpNr_KA4

Tara Brach’s Guided Breathing Meditation   https://youtu.be/y3TrGysWETw

Mindful Breathing by Thich Nhat Hahn https://youtu.be/_z7gmeZUphc (a talk that is over an hour)

Mindfulness and the Breath by Thich Nhat Hahn https://youtu.be/fOkphTWkY1Q (a 15 minute talk)

The Healing Power of Breath https://youtu.be/8XQLpyo96_w 

Intro to the Breath and Breathing https://youtu.be/j0I1hWgH_WM

Alchemy Of Breath Breathing Technique  https://youtu.be/7UjoGbeRZII

Breathwork: A Slow Film  https://youtu.be/pxQh1Zh633w

4 7 8 Breathing by Andrew Weil  https://youtu.be/YRPh_GaiL8s

Breathwork to Connect to Yourself Deeply https://youtu.be/1LWi8oTZ8ew

I encourage you to watch a few of the videos above and give some of the techniques mentioned a try. It might not only add more peace and pleasure to your days, but also years to your life…

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Greater Good Magazine offers a list of six questions that we should ask ourselves each day during the pandemic. The questions are:

•What am I grateful for today?

•Who am I connecting with today?

• What expectations of normal am I letting go of today?

• How am I getting outside today?

• How am I moving my body today?

•What beauty am I either creating, cultivating, or letting in today?

I’ve started asking myself these questions and have found them to be very helpful. They’ve prompted me to reach out to people that I hadn’t been checking in with enough, dance around my living room each morning, take a walk at Thorncrag Bird Sanctuary as often as I can, count my blessings each night, and embrace the wisdom of accepting my current reality without resigning myself to it. Try asking yourself these questions daily and see what changes for you. Let me know how it goes!

COVID-19 is effecting the mental health of people all around the world in some very significant ways. During these incredibly difficult times (an understatement) for so many of us, a skill that I’ve found to be especially helpful is that of mindfulness. What’s mindfulness? According to Jon Kabat-Zinn, mindfulness is “the awareness that arises from paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment and non-judgmentally.”  When we’re practicing mindfulness, rather than worrying about the future or dwelling in the past, we’re fully in the present moment.

There’s a great deal of evidence that mindfulness practices benefit both our emotional and physical health and so I’ve decided to provide a list of some excellent mindfulness resources where you can learn everything you need to learn about what/why/and how to practice mindfulness.


Mindfulness Meditation 101

The Power of Mindfulness: What You Practice Grows Stronger

Mindfulness with Jon Kabat-Zinn

Tara Brach: Using Mindfulness Practices to Activate your Full Potential

A Steady Heart in Time of Coronavirus [Part 1], with Jack Kornfield and Tara Brach

A Steady Heart in Time of Coronavirus [Part 2] with Jack Kornfield and Tara Brach

Instructions for Mindfulness Meditation During COVID

Mindful Breathing

Breathing Meditation

5 Minute Mindfulness Guided Meditation

The STOP Practice

Websites, Articles, and More

Being Resilient During Coronavirus

The Guide to Well Being During Coronavirus

Free Online Group Meditations

The Nine Attitudes of Mindfulness

Ten Days of Happiness For Challenging Times: A Free Online Coaching Program

Creating a Home Retreat: Includes a Free Half Day Mindfulness Retreat  

A Free 40 Day Mindfulness Training Program

A Free Loving Kindness hand washing poster to to print and hang in your bathroom

Coronavirus Discussion Cards for Kids


Mindfulness For Beginners

The Mindful Kind

Ten Percent Happier With Dan Harris

Mindful in Minutes

The Science of Happiness

Simple Self Care

Mindful Meditations

Let me know which are your favorite resources!

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Right before dinner Tuesday evening, my husband and I were unwinding on our deck after a long and busy day when a monarch butterfly landed on my shoulder.  It lingered so long that my husband was able to walk by it, go into the house, get his phone (and mine as I was expecting a call) and take several photographs of it.  At 6:00 pm, I received a scheduled phone call from my friend, Sara.  My delicate little companion remained perched on my shoulder the entire time Sara and I chatted on the phone.  When I hung up, it was time for dinner and so I gently encouraged it to fly away.  It didn’t.   Instead, it climbed onto my finger.  I sat for some time talking with it and eventually began petting its tiny legs and then its delicate wings.  It didn’t flinch.

After several minutes, I  tried to coax it onto the leaves of a plant so that I could go prepare dinner.  I managed to settle it onto a leaf, but once I stepped away, it immediately flew around me, landed on my leg, and marched directly upwards.  Amazed, I reached out my finger and without hesitation; it climbed onto it again. I lifted it back up to eye level and talked to it for another ten minutes or so.  I walked around with it.  I stopped and studied it again while it seemed to calmly study me.

I have no idea what this little butterfly was capable of comprehending, what it might have wanted, why it seemed to have no fear of me.  It behaved as though it trusted me completely and its dark eyes seemed to look directly into my own.   I was enchanted.  I was touched.  I was captivated.  I didn’t want to anthropomorphize this fragile little creature and yet it became increasingly more difficult to resist asking it what it wanted.  Was it okay? Did it have something it needed me to know?  Was it asking something of me?   It had been with me for close to an hour.  I had things to do, another trip to Lewiston to make, and dinner to make.  I periodically flicked my wrist, encouraging it to fly away.  It didn’t budge.  While it perched on my right hand, I awkwardly lifted my phone with my left hand, placed it between myself and my persistent little companion and attempted to take close-up shots of its wee little face.  Then we walked around some more, the monarch and I.  Next, we sat, facing the lake, a gentle breeze periodically rustling my hair and its wings.  I petted it.  I talked to it some more.  I flicked my wrist, coaxing it to take flight, and then repeated the process.  Walk.  Sit.  Pet.  Flick, coax.  Finally, it ambled down to the end of my finger, paused for a moment, and lifted off.  I ran into the house before it could settle on me again.

I was relieved to be free of the butterfly and, at the same time, I felt a sense of loss.  The kind of loss I often feel when my friend Stephanie’s car leaves the dooryard, beginning her long journey homeward, away from me.

A Newsweek article published in January of 2019 reported that Monarch butterflies are going extinct, declaring that a staggering 90% of them have already disappeared since the 1980s and that they may vanish completely from the planet within the next twenty years.

I’ve been doing a significant amount of grieving these days, lamenting the diminishing wilderness, clean water, air, food, species, civility, hope.  There are a great number of us who are grieving.  Who have grown increasingly heartsick from incomprehensible news, distorted facts, outright lies, unchecked corruption, greed, and a tidal wave of hatred.   A CBS News headline declares that “There Have Been More Mass Shootings Than Days in 2019.” We are reeling in response to three mass shootings within the past week, too many dead and wounded to grasp, too much rage to express, too much pain to absorb.

My country feels both more endangered and more dangerous to me than at any point in my lifetime, and a part of me wants so much to turn away from it all, take refuge in shopping, food, numbness, a hundred small and petty distractions.  Today, I keep bringing myself back to those moments with the butterfly.  How beautiful, and fearless and trusting it seemed.  In many cultures, the butterfly has been perceived as a symbol of profound change and transformation.  Before it becomes a creature of beauty and flight, it suffers a very messy and dark period of dissolution.  While trapped within its cocoon, its caterpillar body begins breaking down and liquifying, dissolving so completely that its caterpillar self ceases to exist.  And yet, while the cocoon has been a dark and dismal tomb, it has at the very same time served as a womb.  Because even as the caterpillar was coming apart, the imaginal cells of the butterfly were coming together.  It was Richard Bach who observed that “what the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls the butterfly.”

A few moments ago, I went into the kitchen to make a cup of coffee and learned that Nobel Laureate and literary light, Toni Morrison, died yesterday.   She was such a courageous and wise woman who touched and taught me so much.  The news of her death is still too startling and new for me to fully process yet, but one line keeps running through my mind.  She wrote, “You wanna fly, you got to give up the thing that weighs you down.”  Words that resonate so deeply as I sit here in my sunlit room contemplating heartbreak, death, transformation, Toni Morrison, and butterflies.

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Last night I watched a funny, touching, and oh so wise talk on vulnerability and how it contributes to “living wholeheartedly” by social worker, author, and researcher, Brene Brown.

Brene asked, “How do we learn to embrace our vulnerabilities and imperfections so that we can engage in our lives from a place of authenticity and worthiness? How do we cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection that we need to recognize that we are enough—that we are worthy of love, belonging, and joy?”  She also observed, “Our lives are a collection of stories – truths about who we are, what we believe, what we come from, how we struggle, and how we are strong. When we can let go of what people think, and own our story, we gain access to our worthiness – the feeling that we are enough just as we are, and that we are worthy of love and belonging.

If we spend a lifetime trying to distance ourselves from the parts of our lives that don’t fit with who we think we’re supposed to be, we stand outside of our story and have to hustle for our worthiness by constantly performing, perfecting, pleasing, and proving. Our sense of worthiness lives inside of our story. It’s time to walk into our experiences and to start living and loving with our whole hearts.”

As I listened to her, I thought about how each of our stories is brimming with beauty,  strength, and wisdom and all too often right alongside of pain, loss, and vulnerability.  The challenge (one that I suspect I’ll be working on for a lifetime) becomes (at least in part) learning how to honor every bit of it, even the hard stuff,  maybe even, especially the hard stuff.   That no matter how difficult or unwelcome the chapter we find ourselves in,  we muster up the wisdom, strength, and grace to love our stories always; that even when they hurt –  we love our stories still…

There’s just so much bad news these days.  Are you feeling frustrated, anxious, angry? Would you like to feel centered, grounded, more relaxed?  Take a few slow, deep and deliberate breaths and then watch the above video while continuing to breathe slowly and gently. It’s a brief meditation spoken by Vietnamese Zen Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh, accompanied by the chanting of Phap Niem and absolutely beautiful visuals. A feast for the eyes, ears, heart, and soul…

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In “How We Choose to be Happy,” authors Rick Foster and Greg Hicks identify Nine choices that extremely happy people make. What are those choices? According to Foster and Hicks the happiest people:

1. Consciously choose happiness over unhappiness
2. Choose to accept full responsibility for their thoughts, actions, and feelings
3. Choose to look deeply inside of themselves to determine what makes them uniquely happy vs. looking to others to learn what should make them happy
4. Choose to keep what makes them happy central in their lives
5. Choose to convert problems into opportunities and find meaning in even the most painful times
6. Choose to be open to new opportunities and remain flexible and ready to adapt when the unexpected occurs
7. Choose to possess a deep and ongoing appreciation for all that is good in their lives and to stay present focussed
8. Choose to give of themselves generously and without expectation of being rewarded
9. Choose to be honest with themselves and others

How many of these choices do you regularly make?  If you were to commit to making these nine choices every day, how might your life be different?  What might you be doing differently?  How might you be thinking and feeling differently?  I think I’ll make this my journal assignment for tonight.  Join me?


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The late nineties were rough years for Neil Pasricha, and after his wife told him she no longer loved him and a close friend committed suicide, he came home from work one day and to cheer himself up he started a tiny little blog he called, “1000 awesome things.” In a TED talk he explained, “I was trying to remind myself of the simple, universal, little pleasures that we all love, but we just don’t talk about enough — things like waiters and waitresses who bring you free refills without asking, being the first table to get called up to the dinner buffet at a wedding, wearing warm underwear from just out of the dryer, or when cashiers open up a new check-out lane at the grocery store and you get to be first in line — even if you were last at the other line, swoop right in there.” And this sweet and simple little blog eventually won a Webby award and launched a bestselling book.
We all need to be reminded of those tiny and all too often uncelebrated pleasures in our lives. So I think I’ll start with just 10. Let’s see…

1. The scent of lilacs from the tree in my front yard
2. Fresh and warm baked bread
3. Birds flying in formation
4. The smell of the forest in springtime
5. A puppy’s kiss
6. A lazy afternoon at Reid State Park
7. The first sip of hot coffee in the morning
8. That feeling that comes right before you drift off to sleep
9. Absorbing the warm sun on my face
10. Being moved by a piece of music
11. Laughing so hard my muscles ache (oops getting carried away here, only supposed to write 10.)

Yup. I feel better. Your turn. Try it. Just list 10!

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I’m delighted to announce that my six-week course, “Reclaiming Your Lost Self and Healing into the Present” based on the work of Patrica Lynn Reilly, is now offered as a self-paced course.  The course consists of Six major segments each of which contains a number of individual sections.

Table of Contents:

Segment One: Introduction

Course Overview


How Might Your Life Have Been Different?





Women’s Friendships

Segment Two:  The Lost Selves of Girls

Reclaiming Our Lost Selves

Growing up Female

What Does it Mean to _____________ Like a Girl?

Shrinking Women

Journal Suggestion

Gathering Your Gifts

Dismantling Outer Directed Behaviors

Journaling Questions and Suggestions


Four Expressive Capacities

Journaling Questions and Suggestions

Guided Meditation

Check in Questions

Additional Reading/Resources

Segment Three: Identifying and Honoring Your Needs

Journaling Techniques

In the Begining the Girl Child…

Reclaiming Our Birthright

Beauty Sickness

Journaling Assignment

Healthy Experiences for Girls

Honoring Body Connection and Attunement

The Whole Girl

Guided Meditation

The Body Scan

Inner Listening

Inner Wisdom

A Circle of Women

Journaling Suggestions

The Wisdom of Eve Ensler

Check-in Questions

Additional Reading/Resources

Segment Four: Identifying, Expressing and Honoring Your Feelings

Imagine a Woman

Early Childhood Experiences

The Emotional Woman

Healing into the Present

Journal Questions

The Legacy of Unclaimed Pain

Childhood Fantasy: What Might Have Been.  What Still Might Be.

Listening to Shame

Guided Meditation

The Unexpressed Feelings of a Lifetime

Learning to Respond Vs. React

Reparenting the Inner Girl

Healing Shame and Fear

A Circle of Women

Journaling Questions/Suggestions

What Are You Unwilling to Feel?

A Voice of Her Own

Check-In Questions

Additional Reading/Resources

Segment Five: Speak Your Truth

Reclaiming Our Stories

Wisdom and Authenticity

The Voice of the Girl-Child

Reclaiming Your Birthright

Healing Experiences for Girls AND Women

Radical Self Honesty

Telling Yourself the Truth

The Courage to Trust Yourself

Journaling Assignment

Guided Meditation

Giving Women a Voice

A Circle of Women

Journaling Assignment

How Might Your Life Have Been Different?


A Meditation of Deep Acceptance

Additional Readings/Resources

Segment Six: Express Your Creativity: Honor Your Artist Soul

Creativity and Our Girl Selves

How Creativity Boosts Our Health

Journaling Assignment

Reclaiming Your Birthright

Your Creative Genius

Healthy Family Experiences for Girls AND Women

Journaling Assignments

Creative Affirmations

Women and Creativity

A Circle of Women

Imagine a Woman

Journaling Assignment

Your Vow

Designing Our Lives

Check-In Questions

Additional Articles/Resources

Note: If you decide to sign up, don’t forget to let me know which times work best for optional group Skype calls on the form included in the introductory section!

Sign up by clicking on the following link

Reclaiming Your Lost Self

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