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So much of the news is bad. I need to be inspired, reminded of my power, and so I re-read the following today. I’m not sure where it originated from only that it’s widely circulated on the web.

We are the Ones We’ve Been Waiting For

“You have been telling the people that this is the Eleventh Hour.
Now you must go back and tell the people that this is The Hour.

Here are the things that must be considered:

Where are you living?
What are you doing?
What are your relationships?
Are you in right relation?
Where is your water?
Know our garden.
It is time to speak your Truth.
Create your community.
Be good to each other.
And do not look outside yourself for the leader.

This could be a good time!

There is a river flowing now very fast.
It is so great and swift that there are those who will be afraid.
They will try to hold on to the shore.
They will feel like they are being torn apart, and they will suffer greatly.

Know the river has its destination.
The elders say we must let go of the shore, push off toward the middle of
the river,
keep our eyes open, and our heads above the water.

See who is there with you and celebrate.

At this time in history, we are to take nothing personally, least of all
ourselves!
For the moment we do, our spiritual growth and journey comes to a halt.

The time of the lonely wolf is over.
Gather yourselves!

Banish the word struggle from your attitude and vocabulary.

All that we do now must be done in a sacred manner and in celebration.

We are the ones we have been waiting for.

The Elders,
Oraibi, Arizona
Hopi Nation”

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A group of women whom I provide consultation to were discussing the value of beginning each day with a ritual such as starting the day off with an inspirational reading, journaling, meditation, yoga, a mindfulness walk, etc.

These rituals help to center us, prepare us, remind us of what’s most important to pay attention to during the coming hours, and can even carry us beyond our every day lives and into sacred space.

In “A Thousand Clowns” by Herb Gardner, the character Murray Burns advises,
“You have got to own your days and name them,
each one of them, every one of them,
or else the years go right by
and none of them belong to you”

I’m grateful for the reminder of the importance of morning rituals and will recommit to consciously greeting and claiming each new day.

Following are some resources for creating meaningful morning rituals:

Adopting a meaningful morning ritual

5 Simple Steps to Owning Your Day

Reclaim Your Day

An alternative morning ritual

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“God speaks to each of us as he makes us,
then walks with us silently out of the night.

These are the words we dimly hear:

You, sent out beyond your recall,
go to the limits of your longing.
Embody me.

Flare up like flame
and make big shadows I can move in.

Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror.
Just keep going. No feeling is final.
Don’t let yourself lose me.

Nearby is the country they call life.
You will know it by its seriousness.

Give me your hand.”

Rumi

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Recently I listened to a talk by Lynn Twist, activist and author of “The Soul of Money.” During her presentation, she spoke about the process of metamorphosis and of how the earth-bound caterpillar becomes the liberated butterfly.

During the later stages of its development, the caterpillar becomes ravenous, and unable to satisfy its hunger, devours everything in sight, ultimately consuming hundreds of times its weight. (Remind you of our consumer driven culture by any chance?)

Finally, too bloated to move, it attaches itself to a branch and forms a cocoon. Soon, from within the caterpillar’s body, new cells, called imaginal cells, begin to emerge. Because they’re completely unlike any of the caterpillar’s s existing cells, they’re perceived as invaders and are promptly attacked by the caterpillar’s immune system. Out numbered and under assault, these tiny indomitable imaginal cells keep right on coming.  They begin to multiply, to recognize one another, and then to band together and to organize. Eventually, the caterpillar’s immune system is overwhelmed, and it dies.  And yet, what looks at this point very much like death and disintegration, is in fact, a process of birth and transformation. You see, the dead body of the caterpillar provides a rich and nutritious stew (‘nutritive soup’) for the new life that’s forming, and ultimately the caterpillar’s tomb becomes the butterfly’s womb.

In an interview with Larry King on CNN Physician and author, Deepak Chopra observed that the term imaginal refers to “dreaming a new reality” and suggests that “we right now could be those imaginal cells, and the chaos…devastation… psychological imbalance and … destruction that we currently face may just be our nutritive soup.”

Filipino activist, Nicanor Perlas, suggests in an editorial entitled “The Butterfly Effect and Social Transformation” that the process of societal transformation begins with the emergence of ‘imaginal’ individuals who possess a vision for a better future. These visionaries frequently threaten the status quo and are all too often attacked and sometimes, as in the cases of Gandhi, Javier, King, and Kennedy, imprisoned or assassinated. And yet, their visions time and time again have continued to live on as others who come to know and embrace their dreams multiply, find one another, organize, and with tremendous perseverance and commitment provide the ‘nutritive soup’ required to transform the longed-for vision into reality.

In “Imaginal Cells and the Body Politic: A Story for our Times,” Anodea Judith calls for an awakening of the global heart where the overconsumption and greed that exists in our world is transformed, and we’re awakened to “a higher vision of perpetual reciprocity, compassion, and unity.”   Judith likens these awakened individuals to imaginal cells or ‘co-hearts.’

As a psychotherapist contemplating butterflies and imaginal cells, I’m reminded that the word ‘psyche’ refers to both butterfly and soul, and that the term psychology itself is defined as “the study of the soul.” Psychoanalyst, James Hillman, defined psychology as “giving soul to language and finding language for soul.”   What is the language of the soul?  I imagine it to be one that is timeless, creative, authentic, wise, and untamed.

Poet, David Whyte, suggests that a lack of soul is “a refusal to open to a full experience of the world.”  Sadly, it seems, there have been so many ways that our souls have been deprived of living deeply and fully. Buried beneath the duties and details of our lives, we’re all too often shifting into high gear or automatic pilot, barely skimming the surface of our days, and consequently all too often losing sight of what makes our lives meaningful, beautiful, and authentic.

Alan Jones, Episcopal priest and author of “Soul Making: The Desert Way of Spirituality,” asserts that soul making involves contemplating gigantic things, paying attention to the invisible, cultivating an openness to love, pain, wonder and longing.  He believes we are stretched and become more of who we are as we fully engage in ‘soul-making’.

Soulcraft” by Bill Plotkin addresses the psycho-spiritual developmental stages that we each pass through during our journey towards “genuine elderhood.” The book focuses on one phase in particular, what Plotkin calls, “the second cocoon.” It’s at this stage, contends Plotkin, that we evolve from our first caterpillar-like self into a new way of being that is soul-rooted and requires “the death of an old way of being and a birth of something new.”

English Poet, John Keats was intimate with pain and loss during his short life. His father was killed when he was just eight years old, and his mother died when he was 15.  As a young man hHe nursed his dying brother, was forced to leave the woman whom he loved, and suffered with and died from tuberculosis when he was only 25.  In a letter to his sister-in-law and brother George, he shared, “Do you not see how necessary a world of pains and troubles is to school an intelligence and make it a soul? … Call the world if you please, ‘the vale of soul making’.”   Psychoanalyst, James Hillman asserted that our soul comes through our wounds, and Keats, the young poet, understood that our struggles nurture our growth and shape our development just as a butterfly’s wings are strengthened for flight by its struggle to break free from its cocoon.  

Mythologist and storyteller, Michael Meade wrote, “each soul is imbued and broadened with an inner story that tries to live its way into the world… Soul makes us deeper in order to make us wiser. Secretly our souls seek wisdom, and wisdom is a darker knowledge found in dark places and in hard times.”

Today the entire planet appears to be facing “dark places and hard times” and while the longing of my soul calls for change on a societal and even global level, my day to day life is caught up in the challenges confronting my family, friends, neighbors, and clients. It’s right here among the wounds, dreams, hopes, fears and triumphs of those with whom I work, live, and love that my soul stirs and my heart threatens to break. And it’s also here in my own little corner of the world that I most often sense a presence stirring within myself.

During a difficult time in her life, Sue Monk Kidd wrote in her superb book,  “When the Heart Waits” that, “Everything incubates in darkness. And I knew that the darkness in which I found myself was a holy dark. I was incubating something new…Whenever new life grows and emerges, darkness is crucial to the process. Whether it’s the caterpillar in the chrysalis, the seed in the ground, the child in the womb, or the True Self in the soul, there’s always a time of waiting in the dark…” In working through her angst, she concluded that she was being prodded into doing soul work and asked herself, “What would it mean to live, welcoming all? What has happened to our ability to dwell in unknowing, to live inside a question and coexist with the tensions of uncertainty? Where is our willingness to incubate pain and let it birth something new?”

As we grapple with how to best respond to the challenges in our personal lives as well as to those that collectively face us, it seems to me that now more than ever we must incubate our pain and allow it “to birth something new” from out of the “holy darkness.”

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I watched the above video clip today by David Wann, author of The New Normal. In the preface of his book he writes, “The cultural framework we live in – our way of thinking – will either save the day or drop the fragile egg that rightfully belongs to the future. We usually assume that huge challenges can only be finessed with technical, political and economic fixes, but we forget that all three are programmed by human culture, and it is there that we can leverage change most quickly and effectively. What do we really mean by this fuzzy term, “culture?” It’s not just about paintings and music, not just opinions, values, and styles; it’s nothing less than the lens through which we perceive reality – the customs, traditions, symbols, norms, motivators, and direction that constitute a way of life. Right now, our culture is confused – trapped between the old paradigm – in which economic growth is king – and a new paradigm that correctly perceives limits to growth and acknowledges its potentially catastrophic social and environmental costs. We are looking for a new identity – a new normal that is more secure, stable, and sensible.”

I whole heartedly believe that while the obstacles we face today are daunting and even frightening, they offer tremendous opportunities for a “new normal” that’s far more satisfying and meaningful than our current status quo.

Wann observes that Americans are overfed but undernourished and offers a number of suggestions for feeding our hungry souls and creating a healthier world. As a therapist, citizen, and mother, I’m committed to learning as much as I can about how together we can create such a world.

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Tom Shadyac is a wonderful example of a birthquake. Incredibly successful as a writer and director of blockbuster comedies, he had it all – money, fame, and all of the trappings of success. And it all worked beautifully for him, until it didn’t. Little by little he became increasingly disillusioned. Then he had a bike accident. For months following his accident he was plagued with debilitating headaches that caused him to frequently confine himself to dark and quiet places. He found himself with a lot of time to think about his life, the direction it was heading, and what truly mattered to him. It turned out that his mansion, his fame, and his millions weren’t enough. It turned out that Tom Shadyac needed MORE.
So he proceeded to give away his money, traded his mansion for a trailer park (no kidding), and got to work on an entirely new kind of film, a documentary called, “I AM”, where he travels around the world interviewing the people who inspired him about the things that mattered most.
James Hollis observed in “What Matters Most” that, “We are the most affluent culture in history, the most gifted with material abundance, and we are starving. “ Tom Shadyac’s “I AM” addresses how we might more effectively fill our empty places and feed our hungry ghosts. You can watch a trailer of “I Am” here and if you’re in the vicinity of Lewiston, Maine, stay tuned. We hope to screen it soon and follow up with a discussion.

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In a Ted Talk entitled, “The Council of Dads” that is both humorous and poignant, Bruce Fieler talks about his experience as a father with cancer. I found a number of points worth noting but was especially touched by the following:

“As I became less and less human — and at this moment in my life, I was probably 30 lbs. less then I am right now … I had no hair and no immune system…At that moment I was less and less human, I was also, at the same time, maybe the most human I’ve ever been. And what was so striking about that time was, instead of repulsing people, I was actually proving to be a magnet for people… Cancer, I found, is a passport to intimacy. It is an invitation, maybe even a mandate, to enter the most vital arenas of human life, the most sensitive and the most frightening, the ones that we never want to go to, but when we do go there… we feel incredibly transformed.”

I have found this to be true as I accompany my own mother through her journey with lung cancer. I have witnessed and experienced profound pain and fear, and yet have also encountered moments of dark beauty, where we were steadied and held by the tremendous caring and compassion of others.

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In “Why Taking Care Of Just My Own Corner Of The World Is No Longer An Option” therapist and founder of Therapists for Social Responsibility, Shauna Smith, asserted, “We as therapists are in a unique position to know, understand and speak out about the inequities in our society, the crimes committed against humanity and especially children, because of a system whose bottom line is profit, not people. We know that basic social services are woefully inadequate and that reducing them while delivering corporate tax credits, subsidies and bailouts, never mind the $1 billion a day that goes to the military and the additional estimated $100 to $200 billion to fund preemptive military interventions in other countries, is unacceptable… We are in a unique position to know that more and more people are being diagnosed with stress, depression and anxiety. While we may not know the exact interplay of nature vs. nurture within each individual we do know that people’s well-being improves when they live in environments which nurture and support rather than deplete and impede. We could double everybody’s dosage of celexa to stabilize their moods, but in many cases people are experiencing normal reactions to being bombarded by the system they live under. ”

In a letter to congress and to key members of the Obama administration on mental health impacts of client change, psychologists for social responsibility wrote, “Climate change already appears to be having devastating environmental effects in the U.S… The psychological responses to those effects can also be devastating. Many Americans are already anxious about what climate change portends. The greater risk is that millions of people will develop severe and persistent anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress, aggression, and other troubled behavior if the U.S. does not quickly lead the way to dramatically reduce carbon emissions.

Without such action, the impact of heat waves, extreme storms and floods, droughts and water shortages, food production problems, lessened air quality, sea level rise, and displacement from homes and communities is likely to pose significant mental-health challenges to millions of Americans and billions of others worldwide…”

As therapists we all too often witness the psychological, emotional and spiritual pain infllicted by our profit driven culture. How do those of us charged with assisting our clients to create lasting change address these wounds while all too often ignoring their social causes? Eknath Easwaren, creator of passage meditation, reminds us that, “lasting change happens when people see for themselves that a different way of life is more fulfilling than their present one.” There’s a great deal that those in the mental health profession have come to understand regarding the root causes of depression, anxiety, over-consumption, and alianation. We also have so much to offer in terms of sharing (not only with our clients but within our larger communities) what will counter these ills and promote meaning, community, happiness and sustainability. (More on this in later posts)

I attended the Awakening the Dreamer, Changing the Dream workhsop this past weekend where we were reminded that all we need to do to make this a more “environmentally sustainable, spiritually fulfilling and socially just” world is to just do SOMETHING, ANYTHING. If each and every one of us does just one little thing towards any of of these goals, the ultimate transformation will be remarkable. What one little thing might you do?

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Each Day is a Gift

On this grey, bitterly cold day, I take a deep slow breath and remember the following words of wisdom…

“May you experience each day as a sacred gift woven around the heart of wonder.”
~John O’Donohue~

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I just read a wonderful poem at the Awakening Awareness Blog
A poem that speaks to so many wonderful people whom I travel beside…

Poem For a New Beginning

In out of the way places of the heart
Where your thoughts never think to wander
This beginning has been quietly forming
Waiting until you were ready to emerge.

For a long time it has watched your desire
Feeling the emptiness grow inside you
Noticing how you willed yourself on
Still unable to leave what you had outgrown.

It watched you play with the seduction of safety
And the grey promises that sameness whispered
Heard the waves of turmoil rise and relent
Wondered would you always live like this.

Then the delight, when your courage kindled,
And out you stepped onto new ground,
Your eyes young again with energy and dream
A path of plenitude opening before you.

Though your destination is not clear
You can trust the promise of this opening;
Unfurl yourself into the grace of beginning
That is one with your life’s desire.

Awaken your spirit to adventure
Hold nothing back, learn to find ease in risk
Soon you will be home in a new rhythm
For your soul senses the world that awaits you.
~john o donohue~

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