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Each of us, in one way or another, feels the weight of the bad news that creeps into our consciousness every single day. One sleepless winter night, while yearning for rest, it struck me that I was carrying more sorrow for the world than my body and soul could possibly hold. It seemed that no sooner than I closed my eyes, the weight of the world began pressing against my ribs — another disaster, another storm, another cruelty, another headline that made me wonder whether we were all unraveling faster than we could ever hope to recover.

I didn’t go looking for bad news. It found me—seeping through every crack: the radio humming from the kitchen, the sudden ping of my phone, flickering television screens, crinkled newspapers spread across the table, conversations with friends and colleagues, and even fragments drifting from grocery store lines. I told myself I had to stay informed, to be a responsible citizen, to resist, to bear witness. But somewhere along the way, the act of witnessing began to feel less like vigilance and more like drowning—my spirit submerged under relentless waves of sorrow.

Far too often, in the hush of night, I’d feel myself swept under—overwhelmed, then discouraged, then quietly pressed down by a gentle, persistent despair. It was as if my nervous system had forgotten the language of safety, each troubling headline echoing in my chest, making the world feel smaller and more dangerous. I found myself thinking, If the world is this fractured, what hope could there be for my daughter, my grandchildren, my country, for any of us? Realizing that constant exposure to negativity was clouding my days and suffocating my well-being, I wondered if intentionally seeking out positive stories might help restore some hope—if I could find a counterweight strong enough to balance the darkness, a gentle force that didn’t require denial or numbness but encouraged me to remember the world’s capacity for repair and renewal.

So, I began searching for good news, letting my weary fingertips find their way to websites that brightened the gloom. Night after night, especially before bedtime, I made a ritual of visiting these virtual sanctuaries. Gradually, these stories began to soften the heaviness I carried; the threads of kindness, resilience, and unexpected beauty woven through each account reminded me that even as the world threatened to burn, there was daily evidence of blossoming too. The good news didn’t banish the shadows, but it offered pockets of light—a gentle shelter where I could catch my breath and remember that alongside hardship, kindness and possibility still flourished.

I found hope at

Upworthy

The Good News Network

Good Good Good

where I read stories of people rescuing strangers, communities rebuilding, scientists making breakthroughs, and kindness showing up in unexpected places.

The good news didn’t erase the hard things. It didn’t magically fix the world or my life. But it reminded me that the bad news was far from the whole story. That alongside grief, there’s still so much healing. Alongside the destruction, there’s also repair. Alongside the cruelty, there’s kindness and compassion showing up every day.

Now, each week I’ve made a practice of gathering up these bright threads and letting them weave a gentler narrative inside me. It’s become an exercise in remembering — remembering that hope isn’t naïve, that beauty persists, that people still choose to help their fellow creatures.

This ritual hasn’t solved anything, but it’s helped to fend off the despair that used to haunt far too many of my nights. It’s given me a sweet place to rest. It’s reminded me that even in a fractured world, there’s still so much worth noticing, worth celebrating, and worth holding close.

Hope Reported Weekly

It feels as though we’re drowning in bad news and yet each day the world reminds us that light keeps finding its way in.

Just this week a neighbor lifted a sledgehammer to free an 85‑year‑old woman from a burning home, choosing courage over hesitation and proving that instinct can still bend toward love.

A passing stranger pulled an eight‑months‑pregnant woman from her sinking car, and days later she gave birth — a child arriving in the wake of rescue, as if hope itself insisted on being born.

Scientists announced the first vaccine that may finally tame a highly fatal virus, a reminder that human brilliance can still rise to meet what once felt impossible.

A lost Renaissance painting resurfaced after a century in the shadows, as though beauty refuses to stay buried when the world needs it most.

And in the coldest corners of winter, a pet sanctuary opened its doors to take in animals from a homeless shelter, because compassion so often expands when someone dares to say yes.

Each Friday now I search for stories that serve as a lantern in the darkness: proof that kindness is still very much alive, that grace keeps showing up in ordinary places, healing keeps on happening and that even in a fractured world someone somewhere is always reaching out to help.

Hope isn’t disappearing it can be found almost anywhere when we look for it, quietly insisting that goodness is still happening and we’re welcomed each and every day to rest in it.

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    Joanna Macy is currently in hospice, and not expected to be with us for much longer. The world will be losing a profound voice for ecological and social justice with her passing. Renowned for her groundbreaking work in systems theory and deep ecology, Macy has inspired countless individuals to transform despair into action through her teachings and workshops. Her ability to weave together insights from Buddhist philosophy and modern science provided a framework for understanding our interconnectedness with the earth upon which we all depend. As a prolific writer and speaker, she’s addressed critical issues such as nuclear threats, environmental degradation, and the deep grief associated with planetary loss. The absence of her wisdom will leave a significant void in the ongoing struggle for a sustainable future, while her legacy will continue to resonate with those of us seeking hope in the face of overwhelming challenges. May her extraordinary life continue to be a beacon to us, we ordinary people, to hold onto hope, so vital not only for warding off despair, but for fostering resilience and igniting change. May we, for the sake of all who share this beautiful planet (and for those not yet born) commit ourselves to taking meaningful action, remembering that our choices today shape the world of tomorrow.

    So much of what Joanna Macy has said and written has touched and taught me, far too much to even begin to distill within the context of a blog post, so I’ll simply leave you with this, “If the world is to be healed through human efforts, I am convinced it will be by ordinary people, people whose love for this life is even greater than their fear.”

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    I watched an excellent video today by one of my favorite wisdom seekers – Gabor Mate. Daniel Mate, his oldest son, accompanied Gabor. The two focused on the relationship between adult children and their parents, providing insights for both. If you’ve never listened to Gabor Mate before or read one of his books (or even if you have), he and his son are well worth a listen. Daniel and Gabor have written a soon-to-be-published book together, “Hello Again: A Fresh Start for Parents and Their Adult Children” and will be producing a podcast as well.

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    I watched an excellent TED talk this morning by Caroline Myss that I encourage you to check out. Here’s one of the gems that she offers, “Every single choice we make is either going to enhance the spirit or drain it. Every day, we’re either giving ourselves power or taking it away.”  And here’s another, “Never blame another person for your personal choices – you are still the one who must live out the consequences of your choices.”

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    For Kevin, my husband, and for all of those who’ve felt trapped in a world that was too small for them.

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    What do I see when I peer into the mirror? I see change. I see experience. I see the Byram eyes. I see the wrinkles around my mouth. Age spots. I see a neck that is crinkling and lines in my forehead. I don’t see ‘me.’ At least the person in the mirror doesn’t feel like me. She’s not the woman that I saw for most of my adult life. She’s not the pretty, soft eyed woman that could turn heads. The one who seldom wore makeup and simply trusted her natural beauty. In all honesty, while not quite a stranger, this creature who looks back at me and whom I recognize as me still seems somehow unfamiliar. I most definitely haven’t caught up to this face yet.

    This woman in the mirror doesn’t appear as approachable as the one that I had the luxury of taking for granted for so long. She doesn’t look as soft or as gentle as the one who lives inside of me. This one looks like she’d probably suffer no fools and would tolerate no back talk.

    I direct her to smile, and she immediately obliges. Still, no matter how hard we try, she and I, that smile doesn’t convince me that she’s, well, truly me. Could this be what experience and life wisdom does to a face? The question surprises me. After all, it’s been my lifelong mission – the acquisition of wisdom. Am I offering up a psychic trade? Beauty for wisdom? Or maybe I’m merely acknowledging a simple truth. You don’t get to approach wisdom without traveling a significant distance, suffering lots of fools (including your own foolhardiness), and encountering (and even embracing) so many (often painful) opportunities for growth. And all of those take a toll on a face.

    What kind words can I say about this face before me? If I’m truthful, I need to admit that no such words come to mind at the moment. Clearly, I haven’t made peace with this face. I miss the old one. I really miss the old one. And yet, I prefer this version of the woman who claims the face in my mirror. She’s so much happier and, yes, wiser than the younger, prettier one.

    And now I gaze at the woman looking calmly back at me, smile at her warmly, and send her love.

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    What Makes Me Happy

    I’ve decided to write a quick list of what makes me happy. Here goes:

    What makes me happy?

    Clean cotton underwear

    Clean sheets

    A freshly cleaned house

    The smell of coffee in the morning

    The smell of lilacs in May

    The smell of apple crisp baking

    The wind calling the waves onto the shore  

    Trees gently dancing in the breeze

    That same breeze caressing my face on a hot day

    The astounding colors of Autumn

    A bright and brilliant starry night

    A field of wildflowers

    Grapenut hot fudge Sundays with extra nuts

    The cry of a loon on Pocasset lake

    Floating in Mill pond

    A stroll through Detweiller’s or Trader Joes

    A meditative walk at Thorncraig

    Perched on the rocks at Reid

    A good book

    A delicious meal

    An uplifting lecture   

    My daughter’s face

    My grandchildren’s delight

    My son-in-law’s laughter

    My husband’s embrace

    A heart to heart talk

    A visit with a dear friend

    A snuggle with a happy dog

    Communing with a butterfly, a bird, a tree

    A full refrigerator

    A full bookcase

    A full moon

    A full heart

    What makes you happy?

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